Are We Taught To Hate Ourselves?
What is your favourite attribute? What would you most like to improve about yourself? Which question of the 2 did you find easiest to answer?
In modern day life, it is perceived as being big headed to declare that you are happy with your figure or the way you look. It is far more acceptable to draw attention to your least favourite assets, and talk about how you wish you were taller, thinner or prettier.
The media fills our screens, magazines and newspapers every day with images of 'how we should look'. Articles full of how to lose weight are ever popular throughout the year. These images and articles combine to encourage the belief that we are perhaps not good enough the way we are. We are frequently being told how we can improve ourselves and although some people may find this motivational, there is a negative underlying tone. Perhaps what would be more healthy is to teach us to love ourselves.
Females, especially, are tuned in to listen to and focus on criticisms and negativity directed at us. If we're complimented, we often don't know how to respond and frequently shrug it off or put ourselves down in response. Learning to graciously accept a compliment and also believe it can improve self confidence and improves how attractive you are to others and yourself.
Self hate is never a healthy emotion. It can lead to resentment and jealousy, depression and low self esteem. That little voice inside our head influences our mood, and by constantly telling ourselves we need to improve and we don't like certain aspects of ourself will affect our self confidence. Not only that, but by complaining about what you don't like about yourself draws attention to it, making it more noticeable to others.
Judging each other, and judging ourselves is always going to happen. What is important is that we don't allow this to be constantly negative. Understand what we have control of and what is important in life. It's not having the most desirable eye colour or the perfect figure; it's being the best we can be, accepting that our body is perfect in it's own way and that we are all beautifully different.
So I'll ask you again: what is your favourite attribute? Whatever it is, focus on it, praise yourself and remind yourself of why you're a good person. Whether it's your personality or something about the way you look, a talent or the fact you're a good friend; it doesn't matter what, just be proud and enjoy your most positive points.
Confidence is attractive and working on your self confidence and not allowing yourself to be sucked in to hate yourself is positive for you and anybody around you. Next time you're browsing through a magazine, see photos on Instagram or you're walking down the high street, enjoy other people's beauty and be proud of your own. Compliment strangers on their best features and allow them to see themselves through your eyes.